Intimacy is not confined to the bedroom; it exists in various forms and can flourish in the simplest of interactions. One form of intimacy that is often overlooked, especially in sexless marriages, is non-sexual touch. I’m Dr. Patti Britton, Mother of Sex Coaching, and today, I’m going to share the art of touch and how it can work wonders in cultivating closeness and connection.
Why Non-Sexual Touch Matters
Non-sexual touch has the power to create a profound connection between two people. It communicates love, builds trust, and fosters a sense of safety and belonging. In a sexless marriage, it becomes even more critical, acting as a bridge that connects two hearts and encourages emotional intimacy.
Exploring Different Forms of Non-Sexual Touch
There are countless ways to incorporate non-sexual touch into your daily routines. A warm hug before leaving for work, a gentle stroke of your partner’s hair as you watch TV together, a reassuring squeeze of their hand when they’re stressed– these small gestures make a big difference.
Creating a Culture of Touch
Creating a culture of touch starts with open communication. Talk to your partner about the types of non-sexual touch they find comforting and enjoyable. Set a ‘touch goal’ for each day–it could be as simple as hugging each other for a full minute every morning.
Understanding the Boundaries
Not every touch leads to a sexual encounter, and that’s okay. It’s crucial to respect your partner’s boundaries and understand that non-sexual touch aims to foster connection and intimacy, not to coerce or pressure into sexual activity.
The Healing Power of Touch
Touch has a magical healing power. It releases oxytocin, also known as the ‘love hormone,’ which helps reduce stress and increase feelings of happiness and trust. Don’t underestimate the potential of a warm, loving touch to heal emotional wounds and rekindle connection.
Embracing Touch in Everyday Life
Incorporating touch into your daily life is easier than you think. Offering to massage your partner’s shoulders after a long day, holding hands while you take a walk, or simply placing your hand over theirs during a quiet moment can reinforce your bond.
As you embark on this journey, remember that the goal isn’t to fix a sexless marriage overnight but to build a foundation of non-sexual intimacy. Exploring the art of touch allows you to deepen your connection with your partner. It creates a relationship that’s rich in love and understanding, even in the absence of sexual intimacy. Give the gift of touch and let it work its magic on your relationship.
If you’d like extra support on this journey, I invite you to initiate the process for a no-obligation sex coaching intake call with me. If our coaching chemistry aligns, we can delve into your specific requirements and work together to enrich your sexual connection.
