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Sexual Frequency Over 50: Are you having enough sex?

As a sex coach with decades of experience, I’m often asked about sexual frequency in marriages. One question repeatedly arises: “How often do 50-year-old married couples make love?”

I spoke about this in an article for Age Times recently.

It’s a common misconception that sex stops being necessary after a certain age. Still, sexual expression can be just as fulfilling and necessary at age 50 as at age 20. However, the frequency of sex can vary significantly from couple to couple, depending on various factors such as health, work schedules, and communication.

If you find yourself in a sexless marriage, know that you’re not alone.

Many couples go through periods where sex takes a backseat to other responsibilities. Still, it’s important to remember that a fulfilling sex life is vital to a healthy relationship.

So, how often should you be having sex?

The answer is simple: no “right” or “wrong” amount exists. Some couples may make love several times a week, while others may be content with once a month or even less. What’s most important is that you are both on the same page and feel satisfied with the frequency and quality of your sexual interactions.

It’s essential to recognize that sexual desires and needs can change over time, especially as we age. Hormonal shifts, physical changes, and life stressors can all impact our libido and sexual function. However, this doesn’t mean that our sex lives have to suffer. In fact, many couples find that their sexual connection deepens and becomes more meaningful as they grow older together.

If you’re in a sexless marriage and feeling stuck, addressing the underlying issues contributing to your lack of intimacy is essential. This could include communication breakdowns, resentment, boredom, or health issues.

Communication is key when it comes to maintaining a healthy sexual relationship. It’s important to have open and honest conversations with your partner about your desires, needs, and concerns. This can be challenging, especially if you’ve been together for a long time and have fallen into a routine. However, making an effort to prioritize intimacy and connection can make a world of difference.

How a Sex Coach can help

Seeking the guidance of a Certified Sex Coach can be tremendously helpful in navigating these challenges and finding ways to reignite the spark in your relationship. A sex coach can provide personalized support, helping you to identify and overcome any barriers to intimacy. They can also offer techniques and exercises to enhance pleasure and deepen your connection with your partner.

Remember, sexuality is vital to your overall well-being, and it’s never too late to start exploring and experimenting. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or just starting out, there are always new things to discover and enjoy together.

Keep yourself sexually alive throughout your lifetime, and don’t be afraid to try new things. This could mean exploring new positions, incorporating toys or props into your lovemaking, or simply taking the time to focus on foreplay and sensual touch. The possibilities are endless, and the benefits are numerous.

Not only can a fulfilling sex life enhance your physical health and well-being, but it can also strengthen your emotional bond with your partner. When you prioritize intimacy and connection, you create a sense of closeness and trust that can carry over into all aspects of your relationship.

With a little bit of patience, communication, and creativity, you and your partner can enjoy a fulfilling and exciting sex life, regardless of your age or relationship status. It’s never too late to rediscover the joys of sexual expression and to deepen your connection with the one you love.

Every couple is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to maintaining a healthy sexual relationship. By staying open, curious, and committed to each other’s pleasure and well-being, you can create a lifetime of passion and intimacy together.

Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level? What’s one new thing you can try with your partner to reignite the spark in your relationship? Share your thoughts in the comments below and let’s keep the conversation going!

Dr. Patti Britton

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