Chasing Sex: Wanting Love, Finding Myself

“Dr. Patti Britton is the sexual mentor we’ve needed all our lives – showing us the way to authentic and shame-free living as she shares her beautifully written and courageous life story.”

“I was absolutely captivated by this extraordinary autobiography. Dr. Patti has crafted a life story so evocative and beautifully written that I often forgot I wasn’t reading a novel. Her clever and poignant writing brings her journey to life in a way that is both inspiring and deeply moving. This book isn’t just a recounting of experiences—it’s a testament to the power of resilience, wit, and the art of storytelling.”

“Patti Britton is a longtime sexuality activist, the inventor of sex coaching, and founder of its esteemed training program, Sex Coach U. She ranks among the world’s most important, innovative, and visionary sexologists. Her rollicking memoir is fun, fierce, exuberant, and very sexual (but R-rated). Her life has involved transcendent highs and tragic lows—and almost every type of sex imaginable. Through it all, Patti remains an affable, articulate, fun-loving, spiritual seeker and an inspiration to all women (and those of other genders) who hope to make a difference in the world. Two thumbs way up!”

“Despite the terrors she has faced, Patti’s journey as an empowered woman is an inspiration for us all!”

“An inspired memoir about lessons learned via experiences with love and spirituality. Anecdotal, lighthearted memoir… warm, sweeping, and big-picture oriented. Britton discloses who she is beyond being the founder of the sex coaching empire.”

“Patti Britton’s memoir Chasing Sex: Wanting Love, Finding Myself is the story of a woman who followed rules, broke rules, and, finally, wrote her own rules. It’s the story of a woman finding and coming into her power. It’s the story of a woman who, having empowered herself, enables others to empower themselves. It’s a story of the drama of desire, the precariousness of human nature, and the journey of personal transformation. It’s a story of the erratic, yet undeniable power of love, and the power, magic, and mystery of sex. It’s a story told with charm and subtle wit and is all the more powerful because of that. And it’s even a story that comes with its own soundtrack! It’s an altogether un-put-downable book.”

“I love this book! Chasing Sex: Wanting Love, Finding Myself spans a very significant historical period for women: from the postwar 40s to current times, from outmoded rules to freedom to express creatively in business and personal choices. Patti is a pioneer in changing the landscape around sex, love and relationships with her unique voice and refreshing vulnerability as she shares her early mistakes, her courage as a young single mother, and the incredible wisdom gained over many decades. Patti Britton is a consummate expert in Sexology and deeply spiritual— a potent combination.”

“In this tour de force memoir, Dr. Patti takes us on a poignant, playful, and sexy romp by unfurling her painful and chaotic early start which led her to New York City during the era of the women’s rights movement into her eventual metamorphosis into a world-class sexologist. Chasing Sex: Wanting Love, Finding Myself is one woman’s courageous and vulnerable account of resilience and what it takes to become your own person. This story of a life well-lived, with jaw-dropping moments and spiritual teachings around every corner, does not disappoint!”

“This book reads like a real-life romance novel! Dr. Patti spills her never-ending adventures that created her story full of life, death, relationships, and most of all, sex. Her pursuit of lustful desires intertwines with her passionate desire for chasing love, while constantly retaining unrelenting positivity throughout her entire life. We should all strive to embrace such honest, truthful, and heartfelt wisdom for all our days on earth.”

“From neglectful parents to a glamorous aunt, childhood accidents to adult adventures, and dating mishaps to sexual experimentation, Britton crafts a memoir that is both moving and insightful. Her vulnerability and life stories reveal the passion behind her decades-long advocacy for sex education, sexual rights, and pleasurable sexual lives — an advocacy for which we owe her a deep debt of gratitude.”

“Patti Britton has not only written a beautiful memoir, Chasing Sex: Wanting Love, Finding Myself. She has given us the gift of herself. Now she has given us a new window with honesty, playfulness, and her bold and direct writing about the world of sex. From her roots in New York to the woods of Vermont to the beaches of California and beyond, Patti has found herself and we are so fortunate to have been able to witness her fullness. Thank you for this book, Patti. You are a treasure.”

“Dr. Patti Britton, fondly known as Dr. Patti, shares her titillating yet profoundly personal transformation from a teenager discovering the difference between love and lust through her journey toward becoming the world’s first credentialed female sexologist. Notable for her refreshing honesty and compassion during her decades-long career as a world-renowned sex coach and therapist, she was first inspired by her youthful sexual experimentation in the turbulent world of the 1960s women’s rights and sexual liberation movements. She soon became a single mom to a beloved daughter who would sadly become a victim of the HIV epidemic in her late thirties. Despite these obstacles and mishaps—and sometimes because of them—Britton bravely sought the insights, intimacy, and spiciness that guilt-free, fulfilling sexuality brings to a balanced life.

Britton’s passion for her subject is clear in her narrative. Her honesty is remarkable, and she reveals many incidents that some women are reluctant to discuss, such as the empty aftermath of one-night stands, and the date rapes and abuses by unworthy, angry males seeking dominance over females. Each chapter of this memoir is loaded with reflections, always beginning with a theme song and ending with a valuable “lesson learned” phrase. In addition to her eventual work in sexuality studies, Britton’s first career position was as an outreach worker for the WIC program, where she later retired as the director at her location. Later, she spent many years in various positions at Planned Parenthood, roles that placed her in touch with sexuality issues, leading to her doctoral study at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS) in San Francisco. Britton’s fascinating, busy life and her willingness to bare it all make for a vibrant, thought-provoking reading experience.”

“Dr. Patti Britton’s life story is a ‘must read’—riveting, entertaining and profound. She has had the courage to explore all of sex, embracing its forbidden taboos along with its deepest wellsprings of pleasure.  This book shares how it all unfolded to help her become a woman ahead of her time—helping us all reclaim eros, sensuality, and orgasms into our lives. Thank you, Dr. Patti!”