My Story

I’ve been a leader in the field of sexology with an emphasis on sexual enhancement for over 35 years. In the span of over 3 decades, I’ve gained invaluable experience working with many types of situations; from people of all ages and demographics suffering from a range of sexual or relationship concerns to real sexual dysfunctions or breakdowns…or just plain stuck at the “sexless” or “no touch” stage. I’ve been a professor and trainer for 35+ years, a sex educator, a counselor, and I am a pioneer in the new growing field known as Sex Coaching. In 2005, I authored the very first book on sex coaching, The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice, that serves as the foundation for my own global online training institute at I’ve been blessed to impact the lives of thousands of individuals and couples through several group-level sexual enrichment programs, as well as numerous media appearances on national TV, magazines, and sex education conferences.

My passion for helping others overcome sexual challenges began with a strong desire and commitment to heal myself. I too have felt the pain of a sexless relationship, loved and lost, overcome the shifting tides of cultural norms around sex and gender, coped with the ravages of living in the body of a 55+ postmenopausal woman. Having lost a daughter to HIV/AIDS in 2004, I learned what it takes to move from grief and shame and into living life FULL OUT. I’ve done the dating and long-term relationship thing and know what it means to have true authentic intimate relating and sexual ecstasy. In 2017 without warning I lost my soul mate, my beloved Dr. Robert. We lived the dream of fulfilling our mission of training sexologists around the world by promoting sexual healing through our training programs at Sex Coach U and Sexology U. We were international Royalty in sexology, the “PattiandRobert” duo. I miss him greatly. But life –and our legacy– goes on, as the choice is to go down with the Titanic or swim. I’m swimming as fast as I can (gulp). I’ve studied from the top gurus in the world on sex, life, love, and pursuit of happiness, and now I’m living my passion by helping others find their own joy and ecstasy in connection with themselves and others. It’s an experience I wouldn’t trade for anything.

Beyond all the formal education and training, I think of myself as a healer with an intuitive gift when it comes to the nature of our sexual being. As a sex coach, I become a container for others to heal, learn, grow and expand. That’s why I do what I do; it’s an honor to create a unique opportunity for others to heal and discover their true sexual potential.

May you get to experience the joy of deep connection and intimacy that is your birthright. Join me in my “mantra” to “CELEBRATE YOUR SEXUAL SELF!!!”

In Love and Light,

simply glamorous

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