Check out this interesting article (in which I am quoted) about sensate focus and its use and benefits.
Think “Masters of Sex” Season 2 about to launch and the impact of Masters and Johnson on us all!
xo, Dr. Patti
3 Techniques to Rewire Your Sex Life
Sex therapists and coaches share the innovative approaches they use to inspire greater intimacy
by Kaitlin Vogel on May 2, 2014
When it comes to relationships, we hear a lot about how good communication is the key to a happy, healthy, and strong connection with your partner. When it comes to sex, however, many couples find it hard to discuss their needs and desires. Sex is an inherently intimate act, and it can be challenging to step back and find the right words to use when trying to revitalize a long-term relationship or address a problem—which is why many sex therapists suggest techniques that are entirely nonverbal. Sexual communication is its own language, and we’re not all fluent.
I had the opportunity to interview a few “sexperts” to learn some of their secrets and find out how couples can apply these techniques to rewire their sex lives. Whether you’re trying to address an issue like performance anxiety, expand your understanding of your sexuality, or rekindle your romance, here are three techniques used by sex therapists and coaches around the country.
1. Sensate focusing
A popular method originally developed by pioneering sex researchers Masters and Johnson, sensate focusing is all about learning to connect through touch. The couple takes turns caressing each other’s bodies in order to heighten awareness of the physical sensations and learn to stay with early arousal (touching of breasts and genitals is off limits during the first few sessions). The goal is to become more in tune with giving and receiving and to create an environment of trust and support.
“Most couples touch each other in order to please the other person, but it’s the opposite with sensate focusing,” says