Nobody likes to struggle with an awkward, ill-fitting condom. But fewer of us want to struggle with STIs or unwanted pregnancies, so condoms for safer sex are must have! Did you know that picking the right condom brand, shape, size can make a world of difference in how you enjoy your sex?
I love this article from Greatist.com sharing advice from sex experts (like me) on How to Pick the Condom That Will Change Your (Sex) Life Forever
My advice? Get whatever fits!
It’s not (always) an ego thing when a man buys magnum rubbers. Some men have thicker erections, and in these cases, the need for a larger size condom is very real, says clinical sexologist and sex educator Patti Britton, Ph.D., M.P.H. Otherwise, the painful and restrictive feeling (or lack of any feeling) of having their penis in a chokehold from a condom that’s too tight can be distracting, making it hard to keep an erection.
And for the ladies…
… companies started selling ribbed, studded, and dotted condoms with strategically placed ridges and bumps that may enhance the friction a woman feels against her vaginal walls—particularly if her man is on the smaller side. Women want to feel their partners inside of them, Britton says. Over the years her female clients have reported that these “ladies first” rubbers create more friction, giving a feeling of fullness.
Safety first! Did you know…
Spermicidal lubricant is the mother of all catch 22s: While it kills sperm on contact, offering added pregnancy prevention, the active ingredient (nonoxynol-9) can irritate a woman’s vulvar tissue and vaginal lining, ruining sex for her and causing microtears that boost her risk of contracting HIV or other STIs, Britton says. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the World Health Organization (WHO) agree that condoms with nonoxynol-9 should not be promoted or used for infection or disease prevention.
Condoms and lube are the perfect team, boosting your pleasure
To get the full benefit, Britton suggests squeezing a drop of lube down into the tip before rolling it on, which will provide a squishy feeling that simulates being inside of a vagina with nothing on.
Ultimately, finding the right condom comes down to what you and your partner like best, and some sexy trial and error is really the only way to find out. Be seductive and playful about it, and you may just find it’s great foreplay, Britton says. You can even buy a variety pack at some drugstores or online if you’re concerned that buying a bunch of different boxes will cut into your budget. Sexy, safe, and more money in our pockets? Talk about scoring.